tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post640587481159828759..comments2024-02-16T02:56:00.399-08:00Comments on Between Fact and Fiction: I Am Tired Of BloggingNatalie Whipplehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09978251567306345129noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-8519465326997499682013-10-22T10:34:15.523-07:002013-10-22T10:34:15.523-07:00I found this blog because I am tire of writing in ...I found this blog because I am tire of writing in my blog too. My reason however is different. I do not have readers, that why. I think about what to write, cook, take photos but I get no comments nor feedback. I now trying to shift my mentality and tell myself that I will write for me rather than for others.Shobeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09789943219781788209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-87370314216793374862011-10-14T10:05:18.098-07:002011-10-14T10:05:18.098-07:00Sending hugs from windy Toronto, I read your post ...Sending hugs from windy Toronto, I read your post when you were down about not getting published, your agent at the time quit the biz but few months later you had a publishing deal things as you know go like that in the biz. <br /><br />Altough I am not agented at the present time or published , I realize that the only things writers/authors can control right now is writing the best novels, work hard at getting better at the craft, staying grounded with close friends and family. <br /><br />Maybe you have to blog less, and Goodreads is great to promote, network books wth other authors/writers/fans but there are a few people that love giving bad reviews. Will you let those people get you down? I hope you have built a tougher skin than that which is writer 101 when one decides they want to pursue their writing lol. I look forward to your book, and my final words breath and the classic line from GONE WITH THE WIND. Tomorrow is another day. =o)Keisha Martin Romance Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075320694648296594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-83658837919097315512011-10-11T12:44:40.344-07:002011-10-11T12:44:40.344-07:00I'm so sorry you're having such a bad expe...I'm so sorry you're having such a bad experience, Natalie. My memoir was published in May, and nobody (yet) has trashed me, at least not through email or even through my blog. <br /><br />Maybe it's one of the perks of age (I'm 71) that I don't care if someone does. I'll just delete them (he he). As for the follower button, the numbers don't mean anything other than the fact that someone at some point has "signed on." Who could keep up with, say, 1000 so-called followers anyway?! I keep the button up because I once read that some people who "peek in" like it.<br /><br />I recently realized I had to cut down on blogging partly so I could get more of my own writing done and partly because I was feeling burned out--and I've only been blogging since April of 2010! Like you I was wondering what in the world I could think of to say. Now, as Anne R. Allen suggested and does, I'm only posting once a week, putting up snippets of my memoir in progress for anyone who wants to read them. For a while I couldn't even visit my blogger friends, I was so burned out; but I don't want to lose touch with some of them whom I consider good friends. So I do what I can. <br /><br />And yes, I keep promoting my published book, step by step. We writers want to connect through our words. We're dreamers, and optimists, too. We all want to believe that one day we'll write that perfect book that publishers and readers want. I know I do.<br /><br />Take care. Take a break from blogging. Do whatever you need to do to lift your spirit. Be happy. Don't be discouraged. Things will work out!<br /><a href="http://anncarbinebest.com/" rel="nofollow"><i>Ann Best, Author of In the Mirror, A Memoir of Shattered Secrets</i></a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-22177436634425968372011-10-10T12:57:36.383-07:002011-10-10T12:57:36.383-07:00Please don't let the Negative Nellies get you ...Please don't let the Negative Nellies get you down. Take a break, sure, but don't let those rude critics -- who are largely intimidated by your success and creativity -- win. <br /><br />Writers are intensely competitive with other writers. If we could change that, we'd be in great shape. Maybe your blog can work toward that goal? Fostering a community of supportive peers. When you're ready to return. <br /><br />Best of luck to you! So sorry to hear what the rotten few among us have done to your spirit.StrategiCopyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09805549715685841744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-40787483964825833222011-10-10T09:12:40.602-07:002011-10-10T09:12:40.602-07:00I've casually followed your blog for a few yea...I've casually followed your blog for a few years now (via Nathan), and this post resonates with me. I think if I had your readership I would respond exactly like this. Heck, I'm responding like this already and I don't even have your readership.<br /><br />I had a few trolls earlier this year because of some fall-out in a writing group, and that sucked. I can't imagine having negativity on a larger scale. Ew.<br /><br />I think it's cool you aren't on Facebook.Jaimie Teekellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07845537262456320501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-39640957724362908532011-10-09T17:24:41.640-07:002011-10-09T17:24:41.640-07:00That's too bad. I just stumbled on your blog r...That's too bad. I just stumbled on your blog recently and I really like it. I know there are jerks out there who think they need to validate themselves by flaming others, but writers as a group are supportive of other writers. We're all going through the same struggles. Hang in there!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-40579024648204168062011-10-07T15:24:52.764-07:002011-10-07T15:24:52.764-07:00Natalie!
This is totally after the fact and I'...Natalie!<br /><br />This is totally after the fact and I'm sure all the other comments have said the same thing (but better), but I completely understand where you're coming from - particularly when you said the Internet has changed from a fun place to a scary place. That happened to me too when my debut novel was released this year. Exactly the same feelings. It is so good to hear someone else express them.<br /><br />I wish I had advice to offer - my reaction to this was to take a big step back from blogging, continuing to blog but in a more detached way. I also NEVER Google myself (that way lies madness) and I certainly never go searching for reviews. For me, cooling off on the Internet and becoming less active was a really positive step.<br /><br />A xAndrea Eameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15304706719936895188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-2439417203919924172011-09-30T07:16:35.066-07:002011-09-30T07:16:35.066-07:00Hey Natalie - I'm just now seeing this post. I...Hey Natalie - I'm just now seeing this post. I've not even been blogging for a year so I can't imagine being where you are in terms of time put in and effort demanded.<br /><br />As far as negativity goes, I learned a long time ago that you can't make everyone like you. If someone is turned off by me, chances are I wouldn't like them anyway, so why would I *want* them to be my friend?<br /><br />On the other hand, everyone likes being liked and cruel people suck. Stick it out - you lived through querying and subs, you'll make it! :)BBChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13750774359232145507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-71300785738115805952011-09-27T07:39:46.122-07:002011-09-27T07:39:46.122-07:00You know what's kind of weird? You're not ...You know what's kind of weird? You're not the only one feeling this way. And by that I mean, so many of my favorite bloggers aren't feeling it these days. Like Eric from Pimp My Novel, for example (among many others). It makes me wonder if, in addition to each blogger's individual situation, there is an overarching malaise hitting the industry. By that I mean, even if we're not directly hit by Border's demise, it hurts just to have it out there. Plus all the imprints that have closed. And the perpetual worry about what the future is going to bring as we make this massive shift from paper to digital. There is a lot of uncertainty in the world of publishing. I just wonder if that unease is affecting each of us more than we realize.Fanfreakingtastic Flowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14363943191354423760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-86347703573363258332011-09-26T11:15:50.715-07:002011-09-26T11:15:50.715-07:00Wow, four years! And you're still writing incr...Wow, four years! And you're still writing incredible posts. Thank you so much for your honesty. It's one of the reasons I love your blog so much. I'm glad taking down the button helped you regain some of the fun of blogging, and hope you find more ways to do so!lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16524291742541007382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-46189496991750104602011-09-25T09:47:05.824-07:002011-09-25T09:47:05.824-07:00I hope you keep blogging, Nat. I know you said you...I hope you keep blogging, Nat. I know you said you would, but it's my hope that you WILL. Even though I don't always drop a comment, your blog is one of my daily sites to check in on, and if there's no post, I'm here more than three times a day trying to see if they've come later! <br /><br />So even though there are no expectations from my end-- because I want you to be happy and do what makes you happy-- you're one of my most anticipated debut authors of 2012! Keep in touch is all I'm saying. I know very well that words hurt sometimes more than sticks and stones, but what people say doesn't trump the accomplishments you've made, or negate the friends and fans you've accumulated, nor does it change how any of US feel about you. So keep posting! Once a month, once a year--- Whatever floats your boat! But keep doing it, okay? I know I'll be waiting. On tiptoes and with lime cupcakes (which ARE delicious, by the way; thanks for the recipe!).Deserae McGlothenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09181339040825589703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-40720822291528738282011-09-25T08:26:52.699-07:002011-09-25T08:26:52.699-07:00I'm going to tell you what I tell all of my fr...I'm going to tell you what I tell all of my friends when they're dealing with a$$hats, whether in real life or on the internet.<br /><br />People are going to talk. People are going to say nasty things. It doesn't matter what you do, someone, somewhere will take issue with it. <br /><br />So do what makes you happy. Be yourself, and assert yourself. If people don't like it, well, take comfort in the fact that you're so important to them that they feel the need to talk about you. It means you're affecting people. And for every vocal jerk that says something rude, or inconsiderate, somewhere there are tens of darling (if annoyingly quiet) people who feel that you're enriching their lives. <br /><br />I guess that's just my convoluted way of saying to do what you need to do for you, and don't worry about anybody else.Taymalinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13894922480703350634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-89314850959377818452011-09-25T06:36:35.248-07:002011-09-25T06:36:35.248-07:00I feel completely inspired to take down my counter...I feel completely inspired to take down my counter (not that that means much for me on my barely read blog). And I never feel like blogging, but I like to read other blogs and when I do occassionally have something to say it's nice to get feedback.Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658962630981643176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-43003952907265194612011-09-24T16:22:05.179-07:002011-09-24T16:22:05.179-07:00I'm sorry you've gotten negative comments,...I'm sorry you've gotten negative comments, and I understand why you'd want to take a break. Don't feel you owe anyone anything. Those of us who love you and your blog will wait. ::sending hugs::Sarah LaPollahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266812619209867411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-25048545727803452102011-09-24T13:05:50.731-07:002011-09-24T13:05:50.731-07:00You are awesome, and I doubt I'll ever think o...You are awesome, and I doubt I'll ever think otherwise. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12294516011395206412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-72579204211356141572011-09-24T09:48:44.385-07:002011-09-24T09:48:44.385-07:00It makes me sad to hear this, and to hear people a...It makes me sad to hear this, and to hear people are mistreating you because of your upcoming book. What is up with that?<br /><br />I have some thoughts on that, which really don't have anything to do with blogging or not blogging, but basically it's this: no one should allow the thoughts, judgements or actions of others impact them in a way that diminishes who they are or what they love. <br /><br />There will always be people who are sour about the success of others. There will always be people who think they know more, can do better or believe they have the right to shred anyone who dares to put themselves in the public eye. These people are not worth our time or energy. The best way to nullify them is to simply put them on mute and move on. <br /><br />I know it's easier to say than put into practice, but life is about what makes us feel happy and fulfilled. So whatever makes you fulfilled, do! :) Don't let others steal your enthusiasm for anything--you've worked too hard and given too much for others to have that kind of power. And if something is no longer making you happy, cut it loose or adapt it to reclaim the joy it used to bring. :) <br /><br />Whatever you decide, those who care will still find you in other places. :) You're a great writer and person, very giving and full of fun energy! :) I hope only good things come your way, Natalie!<br /><br />Angela @ The Bookshelf MuseAngela Ackermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01808259088625142389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-54945084339425827112011-09-24T04:05:25.801-07:002011-09-24T04:05:25.801-07:00Retaining consistency and quality in anything over...Retaining consistency and quality in anything over time is very tricky — especially when it comes to churning out chicken saag — and there are times when I look at my own posts and wonder if I'm slacking and slipping away from my usual abysmal standards. Then something happens and I'm away again. All I would say re:the blahg is that blogging isn't what it used to be for any of us compared to how it was 4 years ago. Twitter, Facebook and LoserSuck have siphoned off a lot of people and comments that might have ended up as substantial blog posts are now frittered into the ether as 'chat'. It's just not happening so much for Blogger at the moment.<br /><br />That said, I understand your perspective, and if you do decide to rein in The Full Whipple (that's like the Full Monty, only for momos) then it will be a shame because <i>in spite of the very clear reasoning behind this post</i> you always have something to say.Whirlochrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09846196906206886945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-30246996856808982232011-09-23T22:31:34.471-07:002011-09-23T22:31:34.471-07:00This isn't the first time you said you wanted ...This isn't the first time you said you wanted to quit your blog, but you always come back. I think you always will.Teralyn Rose Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04586129403789427592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-47087992519188273852011-09-23T21:39:28.812-07:002011-09-23T21:39:28.812-07:00You are an inspiration to a large group of writers...You are an inspiration to a large group of writers and networking is good for you and your publisher.<br />Maybe you just need to have shorter blogs once a week or one long one once a month. I find that my followers seem to appreciate the shorter posts.:) Intangible Heartshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05047040538015079182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-45134974554430430562011-09-23T15:58:43.869-07:002011-09-23T15:58:43.869-07:00Hi Natalie. I have been reading your blog for mayb...Hi Natalie. I have been reading your blog for maybe two years now and it is my favorite! I have been out of touch with everything lately while taking care of my preemie baby so this is late coming to you but congratulations on your book deal! I can't tell you how excited I am to read Transparent. You seem like such a nice and genuine person so the fact that people are rude to you boggles my mind. I hope you can ignore those comments and remember that there are probably a thousand times more people rooting for you than against you. I hope you keep blogging but you have to do what is best for you!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10648005142462223746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-54015434871637720962011-09-23T14:47:46.834-07:002011-09-23T14:47:46.834-07:00I'm a lurker, but I really enjoy reading your ...I'm a lurker, but I really enjoy reading your blog. My blog reading has dwindled down to you and Rachelle Gardner, so sorry to hear you may stop blogging. I just wanted to say thanks--you are an inspiration. I've always appreciated your honesty.Josiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11745370676930629418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-7892289047158124792011-09-23T10:45:02.561-07:002011-09-23T10:45:02.561-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-21847097352094121842011-09-23T09:03:17.795-07:002011-09-23T09:03:17.795-07:00(Yeah that follower count button bugs me, too. It ...(Yeah that follower count button bugs me, too. It always reminds me how relatively unpopular I really am.)<br /><br />There's no excuse for people being mean & I hope it won't be the reason you choose to hibernate. I do get what you're saying about having said it all. I find it tiresome coming up with unique topics. But I will say this, if you go, you will be missed. Your blog is always informative & inspiring, especially to those of us who follow in your footsteps. You've taught us that hard work & perseverance CAN pay off. Do I want what you have? You bet! But I'm not jealous or begrudge your accomplishments. I aspire to them. You've always given me hope & for that, I thanks, Natalie!Nancy Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05735642863696266005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-55816181994508569312011-09-23T08:43:52.971-07:002011-09-23T08:43:52.971-07:00Do what is right for you, Natalie. Every one else ...Do what is right for you, Natalie. Every one else gets it. (as you can see in your comments) Make the adjustments you need to make and then move forward. *virtual hugs*J.R. Johanssonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02671109654769467131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-15892356764675260462011-09-23T07:06:11.047-07:002011-09-23T07:06:11.047-07:00You should draw and focus on things that make you ...You should draw and focus on things that make you happy. If you DO start a tumbler, let me know. I'd love to have the address. Maybe a drawing tumbler? That would be fun!Heather Hansenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13814444108289873041noreply@blogger.com