tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post2725050668718109363..comments2024-03-20T02:49:17.606-07:00Comments on Between Fact and Fiction: Be The Person That Heals The HurtNatalie Whipplehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09978251567306345129noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-36253885235837524962012-11-01T08:33:14.929-07:002012-11-01T08:33:14.929-07:00You're part Maori? That is SO COOL. Now I ha...You're part Maori? That is SO COOL. Now I have the urge to watch the All Blacks rugby team haka again... here we go: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdMCAV6Yd0YCKHBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17741681893677604323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-75167724261714439352012-10-23T13:39:52.018-07:002012-10-23T13:39:52.018-07:00Bullying happens wherever you are & i'm so...Bullying happens wherever you are & i'm sorry that happened to you as well, Natalie. I live in England and I got very badly bullied in my last year of school (I'd been bullied a bit on and off for years before that too). I didn't understand why it should happen & I ended up being so insecure about myself. I've only just learnt to let go of the hurt and learn to love myself again. <br />Now I always try to stand up for others if they're being bullied because I know how it feels and no one should have to go through it. Unfortunately, this world isn't perfect and most people do experience this king of thing. But this is a great post. Kelly C's Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11715900074559943524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-13090659558767501582012-10-22T11:58:41.901-07:002012-10-22T11:58:41.901-07:00I've been thinking about and remembering my ow...I've been thinking about and remembering my own experiences with bullying. I recall trying to be friends with and nice to two girls who got made fun of for being different. I'm hoping I really was nice to them and not just wishing that I was the kind of kid who was. I've been remembering the boy who tormented me in Jr High and how I responded and dealt with that. And I am realizing just how poor my memory is. Great post - I know things that happen when we're kids stay with us.melissa @ 1lbrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03292714636311546457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-82299857987120448172012-10-22T10:02:51.053-07:002012-10-22T10:02:51.053-07:00I was talked about by a group of quilters after I ...I was talked about by a group of quilters after I had left a retreat early. One of them told me in a very unkind way (publicly) and it has been a hurt ever since. I have pretty much stayed away from that group even though some of them have approached me. I am pleasant but will never trust them again. I have lots of other friends and a wonderful family. Life is good in so many ways. And I try not to let that horrible experience have power over my happiness now. <br /><br />I am so sorry that you had that experience when you were young and so much more vulnerable. Try to feel sorry for those girls who have to live with their actions and maybe even guilt. Hopefully they have learned to be kinder. I think some of the women involved in my situation feel really bad about it now and they have lost my friendship which they will never get back. Hugs and comfort to you!<br /><br />Great conversation here!Corkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04195670088263121364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-70689416336071046252012-10-20T16:26:06.806-07:002012-10-20T16:26:06.806-07:00I'm with you - and very timely. I've been...I'm with you - and very timely. I've been dealing lately with the balance of being myself and being popular. I spent so much of my life being my weird, stand-out, outcast unpopular self that in the last few years I really wanted to be the hot, popular one for once in my life. But that seemed to require me not being myself as much. So now I'm going back to being the weirdo who got alienated alot, but hopefully I won't be as alienated. I've rarely felt that I belonged (ANYWHERE) and still don't (living in L.A. doesn't help). I had to call Christa Desir the other night to talk to someone else who was real, and different, and stand-out-, and honest, and herself, just to reassure myself that I wasn't alone in the world.<br /><br />It's broken, but we limp along and make beautiful things and find beauty anyway.Sophia Changhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10946233873722107937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-15775877497930833322012-10-20T11:37:57.185-07:002012-10-20T11:37:57.185-07:00Fabulous post, Natalie! As I always say and drive ...Fabulous post, Natalie! As I always say and drive into my own children, we can never know what the ripples are that we leave on others. (Whether that might be good or bad.) I too deal daily with the result of bullying and being made fun of, so I know how deep those wounds go. Just know that now you have a whole army of friends - TRUE friends - surrounding you. I'm lucky to have found you through the writing world. xoBeth Gallagherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01699804487443359309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-22902000854965197612012-10-20T10:08:53.147-07:002012-10-20T10:08:53.147-07:00My daughter got bullied a lot in second grade as w...My daughter got bullied a lot in second grade as well. It's amazing how young kids can be so cruel. I ended up moving daughter to another class halfway through the year because I worried this experience would also shape the rest of her life. She did much better in the next class, thanks to an extra kind teacher and a new set of friends.<br /><br />I'm glad you had Lam and Phung.Kathryn Purdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18337488365098780737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-51686040664650860082012-10-19T04:50:22.890-07:002012-10-19T04:50:22.890-07:00I've felt that fear, Natalie. For years I woul...I've felt that fear, Natalie. For years I would even be afraid to approach my friends if I saw them across the concourse in college, or to call them up. I hope you get to see Lam and Phung again some day.Paul Anthony Shortthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14393249001158230985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-50055796109231245932012-10-18T18:49:27.586-07:002012-10-18T18:49:27.586-07:00Everyone needs a Lam and Phung. Or I suppose every...Everyone needs a Lam and Phung. Or I suppose everyone needs to BE Lam and Phung.Jessie Oliveroshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06232456334069794107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-20665216473882825802012-10-18T18:41:13.487-07:002012-10-18T18:41:13.487-07:00Thank you so much for sharing. It's horrible ...Thank you so much for sharing. It's horrible what happened to you and sharing always takes guts. So many of us have such similar experiences. While I was never bullied, per say, I always felt like I didn't fit in, whether it was school, dance class, church; something about me was just an outsider. It's those few close friends or a kind word from someone unexpected that really makes the difference.Steph Sessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17418055704131162412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-5187508951557948192012-10-18T17:56:47.008-07:002012-10-18T17:56:47.008-07:00This is beautiful, and so are you!
There's al...This is beautiful, and so are you!<br /><br />There's always a light in the darkness. And sometimes we have to be our own light, even if it hurts to realize that. But regardless, we are important. We are worthy of light. Sara Raaschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01196505323463444186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-51955454933285559882012-10-18T16:09:50.252-07:002012-10-18T16:09:50.252-07:00Like you and so many of your commenters, I went th...Like you and so many of your commenters, I went through this too. I'm glad all this is finally getting talked out.mary.anne.gruen@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16839396134411360643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-17769086137461191092012-10-18T15:41:31.338-07:002012-10-18T15:41:31.338-07:00So true. I was also bullied at school. At church, ...So true. I was also bullied at school. At church, though, I was in the "cool" group (we were pre-teens) so I didn't get bullied there, but I remember one girl who did. She was different, didn't pretend to fit in, and the girls were nasty-mean to her for standing out. I stood up for her. I played with her when the others wouldn't. And I really liked being with her because she always seemed so real. We ended up becoming close friends until I moved away. Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12870655070026853342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-20888024738592222512012-10-18T15:29:56.089-07:002012-10-18T15:29:56.089-07:00Love you, my dear friend. :) Glad you're in my...Love you, my dear friend. :) Glad you're in my life.Kasie Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169629001145903361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-72261873843983141342012-10-18T15:01:35.323-07:002012-10-18T15:01:35.323-07:00My heart goes out to you. In reaching out, we all ...My heart goes out to you. In reaching out, we all become stronger.Lucas Darrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01405530729663443670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-10738157447057602582012-10-18T14:08:33.516-07:002012-10-18T14:08:33.516-07:00Wow, 2nd grade? This was such a thoughtful and bea...Wow, 2nd grade? This was such a thoughtful and beautiful post and one I won't forget, I'm sure. Thanks for sharing.ilimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17899071063752311737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-36987014028015978632012-10-18T13:52:47.541-07:002012-10-18T13:52:47.541-07:00Great post! Thank you for sharing your experience....Great post! Thank you for sharing your experience. Tina Mosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09892617933410379929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-2242326069932759112012-10-18T13:27:44.541-07:002012-10-18T13:27:44.541-07:00This a wonderful post. Thanks for being that perso...This a wonderful post. Thanks for being that person who tries to heal the hurts.LinWashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13041832821260168483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-5820161828553980252012-10-18T13:03:59.362-07:002012-10-18T13:03:59.362-07:00A very powerful and painful story, Natalie. Thank ...A very powerful and painful story, Natalie. Thank you for sharing.<br /><br />The one thing I remember from being around that age -- kids change on a dime. I never understood how quickly they can turn on each other, or why.JeffOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07947660745120963286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-41294884140684668782012-10-18T12:45:15.262-07:002012-10-18T12:45:15.262-07:00I'm glad to see how many authors have been spe...I'm glad to see how many authors have been speaking up for anti-bullying month. Your story sounds so similar to mine, and I know completely what you mean about never wholly regaining that confidence that you can trust that a person likes you. I still struggle with this, especially in the online age when it's so hard to read between the lines of an email (are her emails shorter/fewer because she's busy or because she's losing interest in me and wishes I'd stop writing?). So much of that foundation of hurt and distrust is laid in those vulnerable formative pre-teen years; and I'm not really sure what we as adults can do to fix it. At least we have a community of support from our peers we can draw from. Thanks for sharing, Natalie.Seabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09400079400485962650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-19064365347481121742012-10-18T12:29:49.567-07:002012-10-18T12:29:49.567-07:00I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. I...I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. It hurts just reading about your experiences b/c I know exactly how you felt, how you sometimes still feel. It's amazing, and a little sad, how many people can relate, but this is why we need these posts. Thank you <3Lori M. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04858438789496971734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-16882547463558658102012-10-18T12:21:40.082-07:002012-10-18T12:21:40.082-07:00Thank you for sharing this.
This one hits close t...Thank you for sharing this.<br /><br />This one hits close to home; I think it hurts all the more when someone who we're supposed to be close to or count on is the one doing the damage. In my case, the emotional abuse comes from my sisters.William Kendallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00331324250821836822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-43782104427870473982012-10-18T11:58:51.267-07:002012-10-18T11:58:51.267-07:00I am honored to be your friend, truly. And I alway...I am honored to be your friend, truly. And I always will be. :)Michelle D. Argylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696465137285587646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-1889155344783937952012-10-18T11:52:11.028-07:002012-10-18T11:52:11.028-07:00Beautiful, beautiful post. Beautiful, beautiful post. Chelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08279604060499054571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5774363178370829558.post-61290991081807771932012-10-18T11:16:06.681-07:002012-10-18T11:16:06.681-07:00Great post, Natalie -- and that's no lie.
Thi...Great post, Natalie -- and that's no lie.<br /><br />This hits me in a big way, actually, because I've got a story similar to yours... except that I was 1 of those 2 mean little girls. :/ There's more to it than that, obviously, but I think I'll write my own post about it, rather than ramble in your comments section.<br /><br />Anyway, I'm sorry that such an awful thing happened to Wee Natalie, but I'm glad that it led you to forming such strong friendships with Lam and Phung, and that you're bravely sharing your story now, and in doing so, contributing to the collective healing.Kristanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771013578685419826noreply@blogger.com